No hair out of place. Straight A’s. Your house impeccably clean. No one can dispute that our society rewards and recognizes when we are #1 a. Plus, it feels good when you achieve mastery. The benefits of perfecting and refining are clear, but what are the costs to yourself and your loved ones of being a perfectionist. How do you know when you are perfecting something that no one notices or cares about but yourself? How much free time would you have for your families, hobbies, and interests if you could stop when things are good enough? Practice an act of kindness to yourself and say “no” to your obsessive tendencies.
About our guest:
Ragini Elizabeth Michaels, author and certified Trainer of NLP and Ericksonian Hypnosis for over 30 years, consistently receives international acclaim for her elegant style and professional expertise. She is also recognized for Facticity Six Step Process (Paradox Management) – designed to accelerate your ability to surf the spiritual-psychological interface in daily life. Ragini offered The Facticity Wisdom School in Seattle (2000-2009), as well as Paradox Soirees for past students and Paradox Salons for interested beginners. Her work has taken her beyond America to Canada, India, England, Scotland, Italy, Spain, Germany, and Switzerland. She runs a successful private practice in Seattle, has published two books on the psychology of paradox, and eight meditation/hypnosis CD’s. Her third book – working title The Wisdom Of Your Discontent – will be available next spring (Conari Press, 2011).
- What is perfectionism? Is stretching for “ideal” achievable? What are upsides of perfectionism?
- How do we know when it’s gone to far? Isn’t good enough… good enough?
- When do we stop going overboard? What is the inner converation we can have to stop the compulsive side of perfectionism that doesn’t serve us?
- How can we relax and accept the sense that we are both flawed and perfect?